Thank you for giving us this opportunity to share Emma. You have weaved our stories together so beautifully, with your own experiences too and it is so affirming to read them all, individual but together. Since writing my responses, I have come to realise just how much I am holding everyday and how easy it feels to drop the ball, which of course is not the end of the world (and I think we need to give ourselves a lot more grace for that), but it does feel as though there is a such a small margin for error/forgetfulness/daring to relax! xx
It does feel daring to relax, doesn’t it? Because usually something drops when you do so and yet it is so important too. You are welcome for this space to share.
This was such a great collaborative post and I could relate to all of these experiences. It's so helpful to read other mums experiences with the mental load as it articulates how I feel about the mental load, but sometimes I don't know how to express it. It's the invisibility of it all and that it's just expected. And the overwhelm, stress and anger behind it too.
There is a ton of overwhelm and anger behind it too, I wish it was easier for my partner to get it, but I am not sure how to make sure he does understand and even if I could explain it correctly, that he would even then really know what I mean.
I can really relate to this feeling too Emma, it's very hard to explain and convey how it truly feels. Sometimes I just want someone else to some of the decisions for me, too many decisions to make, then you don't know what decision to make for the best half the time!
I usually want someone to make all my decisions for me, I get fatigued by it so easily but it is a huge part of motherhood, and like you said, then comes the doubt that you are making the right choice at the right time.
Thank you for giving us this opportunity to share Emma. You have weaved our stories together so beautifully, with your own experiences too and it is so affirming to read them all, individual but together. Since writing my responses, I have come to realise just how much I am holding everyday and how easy it feels to drop the ball, which of course is not the end of the world (and I think we need to give ourselves a lot more grace for that), but it does feel as though there is a such a small margin for error/forgetfulness/daring to relax! xx
It does feel daring to relax, doesn’t it? Because usually something drops when you do so and yet it is so important too. You are welcome for this space to share.
This was such a great collaborative post and I could relate to all of these experiences. It's so helpful to read other mums experiences with the mental load as it articulates how I feel about the mental load, but sometimes I don't know how to express it. It's the invisibility of it all and that it's just expected. And the overwhelm, stress and anger behind it too.
There is a ton of overwhelm and anger behind it too, I wish it was easier for my partner to get it, but I am not sure how to make sure he does understand and even if I could explain it correctly, that he would even then really know what I mean.
I can really relate to this feeling too Emma, it's very hard to explain and convey how it truly feels. Sometimes I just want someone else to some of the decisions for me, too many decisions to make, then you don't know what decision to make for the best half the time!
I usually want someone to make all my decisions for me, I get fatigued by it so easily but it is a huge part of motherhood, and like you said, then comes the doubt that you are making the right choice at the right time.