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Amanda Aaron 🇨🇦's avatar

Oh Emma. I am glad that I found this story to read through. You are so seen and held. I remember early on in my pregnancy I was cautioned by some against spreading the news that I was pregnant because of how common it is to lose a baby in the first trimester. But then I read something that said if you do not tell anyone that you are pregnant and you lose the baby then you have no one to tell about your loss. That was so profound for me. We need to share in our joy, yes, but we also need to share in our sorrow. Thank you for taking the heart ache to share your sorrow with us ♥️

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Emma Del Rey's avatar

I am glad I told people even though it was early one, because then I was not alone. But still, you are alone. It is a weird feeling. Thank you for reading.

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Ashley Zuberi's avatar

So sorry for your loss Emma. These early losses are so tough because we are often shouldering them all on our own. No one else knows, or very few people. I too was taking herbs that I shouldn’t have been taking when I experience my early loss, which compounded the feelings of blame and shame—that it was my fault. Wanting to know what happened and why when we can never know is tough to sit with. Resetting our nervous system after having reorganized it with hope and joy and possibility and planning is not fun work. Sending you strength and grace as you move through the grief.

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Emma Del Rey's avatar

Thank you for sharing your experiences, I am excited to share them (feels very strange to be excited about this, but it is healing reading others words come in). I am sorry for your loss. I am trying to reorganize with hope and joy.

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Christine Vaughan Davies's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story here. And for the ways you are always lifting up others' stories so that people feel less alone. These early losses are so devastating for all of the reasons you eloquently shared. I think there is much healing in naming them out loud. I wish you continued comfort as you walk this path of grief.

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Emma Del Rey's avatar

There is so much healing in naming it all out loud. Thank you for reading and encouraging me.

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Breeann Adam's avatar

Thanks for writing this. I’m a little short on words, but just know I appreciate your heart here. 🩷

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Emma Del Rey's avatar

I am always short on words. I appreciate you reading and even commenting at all :)

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