Thank you so much for letting me be part of this series Emma, it felt really cathartic to write out my answers of things that I find hard as a mum. Just love this series and the how you are normalising that it's OK to find motherhood hard, because it is!! Xx
You are so welcome, thank you for sharing your words with us. Motherhood is so hard, and anger is such a hard bit for me, thank you for speaking to it. It happens, as Holly said, when I feel overwhelmed and overstimulated which happens more than I would like.
Thank you for sharing your experiences Jenna! There was so much that I resonated with: just yesterday I got really angry with my little one for screaming all the way home from baby music class (25 mins!), then realised that I was actually just overwhelmed/overstimulated. He wasn’t doing anything for me to be angry about: he was just tired. Had to give myself a pep talk as we drove! It’s hard as a mama, so I’m grateful for you sharing your experiences too.
Thank you for your lovely comment Holly and I'm so glad that this post resonated with you. I honestly think that making the connection that anger isn't that you are actually angry at your child, it's overwhelm and overstimulation instead is huge. It just removes that guilt and shame of, I'm this awful mum for getting angry at my kids. With 25 mins of crying, it's no wonder you felt overwhelmed and overstimulated too. I'm so grateful for the space that Emma has opened up here so that us mums can be honest about our experiences, and not worry about judgement.
Another brilliant and honest account of Motherhood 👍👏 😊 I could relate to a lot of what you wrote Jenna - a very interesting read.. thank you for sharing bravely and openly ❤️
Thank you for your lovely comment Eva! I'm so glad you could relate, I'll be honest, some of what I wrote felt very vulnerable, but it's in that vulnerability and kind of standing in our truth that we can set ourselves free I think. And knowing that other mums can relate too hopefully makes us all feel less alone. I'm all for more honesty around how hard it actually is as a mum!
Yes, I think it is so important that we try and be more honest and admit to struggling... it helps us all feel less alone, as you said, and stops the false comparisons and feeling we’re not good enough. It’s so refreshing and so nurturing to hear such honesty 👍💕
I hugely relate on the sleep deprivation front! It’s insane we’re supposed to look after a sma child/children, keep on top of house work, and potentially work as well when we’re so sleep deprived. That was/is definitely something that brought up a lot of rage in me. Like we just have to toughen up/push through. I also really relate to what you said about the baby sleeping in the cot & having set nap times - I had to really go in search of like-minded mums who were parenting like me because I was feeling so out of place with mums who were sharing PDFs of nap and feeding schedules… Thank you for sharing Jenna!xxx
Thank you for your comment Ellie - gosh yes the no sleep thing is just huge, takes over your entire life!! Yes, I've always thought that too, that we literally just have to suck it up, and carry on as normal even when the sleep deprivation is chronic. It brings out rage in me too, partly because I'm so tired and have nothing left in the tank so I'm more reactive, but also just at how hard it is. So often, I've found myself running around trying to get loads done, then I just hit a wall and cry because I'm that tired. Yes, it is so hard when everyone else seem to have this schedule sussed with naptimes and you are just there like, I wish!! And you feel like you are doing something wrong because your baby wont fit into this routine. When the reality is every baby is different and naps differently. A PDF of a nap and feeding schedule sounds extreme!! xxx
Thank you so much for letting me be part of this series Emma, it felt really cathartic to write out my answers of things that I find hard as a mum. Just love this series and the how you are normalising that it's OK to find motherhood hard, because it is!! Xx
You are so welcome, thank you for sharing your words with us. Motherhood is so hard, and anger is such a hard bit for me, thank you for speaking to it. It happens, as Holly said, when I feel overwhelmed and overstimulated which happens more than I would like.
Thank you for sharing your experiences Jenna! There was so much that I resonated with: just yesterday I got really angry with my little one for screaming all the way home from baby music class (25 mins!), then realised that I was actually just overwhelmed/overstimulated. He wasn’t doing anything for me to be angry about: he was just tired. Had to give myself a pep talk as we drove! It’s hard as a mama, so I’m grateful for you sharing your experiences too.
Thank you for your lovely comment Holly and I'm so glad that this post resonated with you. I honestly think that making the connection that anger isn't that you are actually angry at your child, it's overwhelm and overstimulation instead is huge. It just removes that guilt and shame of, I'm this awful mum for getting angry at my kids. With 25 mins of crying, it's no wonder you felt overwhelmed and overstimulated too. I'm so grateful for the space that Emma has opened up here so that us mums can be honest about our experiences, and not worry about judgement.
Another brilliant and honest account of Motherhood 👍👏 😊 I could relate to a lot of what you wrote Jenna - a very interesting read.. thank you for sharing bravely and openly ❤️
Thank you for your lovely comment Eva! I'm so glad you could relate, I'll be honest, some of what I wrote felt very vulnerable, but it's in that vulnerability and kind of standing in our truth that we can set ourselves free I think. And knowing that other mums can relate too hopefully makes us all feel less alone. I'm all for more honesty around how hard it actually is as a mum!
Yes, I think it is so important that we try and be more honest and admit to struggling... it helps us all feel less alone, as you said, and stops the false comparisons and feeling we’re not good enough. It’s so refreshing and so nurturing to hear such honesty 👍💕
I hugely relate on the sleep deprivation front! It’s insane we’re supposed to look after a sma child/children, keep on top of house work, and potentially work as well when we’re so sleep deprived. That was/is definitely something that brought up a lot of rage in me. Like we just have to toughen up/push through. I also really relate to what you said about the baby sleeping in the cot & having set nap times - I had to really go in search of like-minded mums who were parenting like me because I was feeling so out of place with mums who were sharing PDFs of nap and feeding schedules… Thank you for sharing Jenna!xxx
Thank you for your comment Ellie - gosh yes the no sleep thing is just huge, takes over your entire life!! Yes, I've always thought that too, that we literally just have to suck it up, and carry on as normal even when the sleep deprivation is chronic. It brings out rage in me too, partly because I'm so tired and have nothing left in the tank so I'm more reactive, but also just at how hard it is. So often, I've found myself running around trying to get loads done, then I just hit a wall and cry because I'm that tired. Yes, it is so hard when everyone else seem to have this schedule sussed with naptimes and you are just there like, I wish!! And you feel like you are doing something wrong because your baby wont fit into this routine. When the reality is every baby is different and naps differently. A PDF of a nap and feeding schedule sounds extreme!! xxx