Creating community is something that comes easily to me now but when I was younger I was terribly shy. I have met moms through the Peanut App, through my husband’s friends, a new momma support circle, free mom walk group, a local prenatal yoga center, prenatal classes, and through baby classes such as swimming and music. I am also starting some of my own free walks in my community. I hope you find your community soon!
So much of this sounds like my inside narrative. The parts that want to just island off because engaging with outside world feels riskier. As Lauren said, you are doing it. You’re feeding that part that needs connection. Slowly and surely. And I personally think that is how it has to be done. If we take it all on at once, it’s too overwhelming to the parts that are scared to come out of the cocoon.
I often joke about desiring to live inside a mountain. What you are reminding me of is baby steps, to move slowly, and trust in ease fully emerging out of the cocoon.
Ahhh Emma I feel you so deeply on this. The desire to have connection and community and yet also some parts of that feels so vulnerable... too vulnerable at times. I have to say I have only truly found that 'bone deep nervous system healing connection' through sitting in Circle with others, and actually from a lot of the spaces I have actively created myself. That might sound a little controlling but it has been these spaces where I have felt safe enough to be myself fully, and in doing that my confidence has grown. I think we have to do it gently, but also I think that we have to stretch a little in order to meet that part of us... it is tender for sure but YOU ARE DOING IT!!!! Love to you, and thank you for mentioning the way I greet my readers, it was really soothing to have that reflected to me as I like to think of my pieces as little invitations for connection. Grateful for you and your words always. xxxx
You are so welcome, thank you for the inspiration. Your greeting always feels like a welcoming in. I’ve been thinking about holding circles here, to meet others and to be in that sacred spaced, especially for mothers, it seems everything is with a goal in mind and I want to hold space for people to be seen and heard. It is vulnerable, and I am doing. I am grateful I am stretching, and it feels uncomfortable!
I relate so deeply to this, Emma! I've struggled with fulfilling onnections my entire life. I'm at a point now where my connections are the strongest they've ever been, yet I still tend to feel lonely or misunderstood at times (all stemming from good ole childhood trauma). When I'm feeling that way I try to see it as a mirror. What is this lack I'm feeling trying to teach me about myself? How can I go deeper with my connections? How can I find new ones? It is a constant journey! Thank you for expressing yourself so vulnerably and inviting your community into this topic. I think that's where real connection truly starts. ❤️
I hear you on the trauma from the past, sometimes I think my perspective is distorted because of it. I love what you said about the mirror, and since you already practice that, you are going to be ready for motherhood (as much as anyone can be). Thank you for reading, I’m really happy you’re here ❤️
Seeking and craving in real-life connection and community here too. It feels like it should be easy to find but it isn't always. I love how you express your loneliness here I feel it in my bones. Wishing you well on your quest. x
I can relate to so much of this desire for community and connection and the challenges of feeling alone in a group, not knowing how or what to say. Finding and strengthening community is something that feels so important to me and is often so tenuous but worthwhile.
Creating community is something that comes easily to me now but when I was younger I was terribly shy. I have met moms through the Peanut App, through my husband’s friends, a new momma support circle, free mom walk group, a local prenatal yoga center, prenatal classes, and through baby classes such as swimming and music. I am also starting some of my own free walks in my community. I hope you find your community soon!
Thank you so much! It definitely requires time and effort.
So much of this sounds like my inside narrative. The parts that want to just island off because engaging with outside world feels riskier. As Lauren said, you are doing it. You’re feeding that part that needs connection. Slowly and surely. And I personally think that is how it has to be done. If we take it all on at once, it’s too overwhelming to the parts that are scared to come out of the cocoon.
I often joke about desiring to live inside a mountain. What you are reminding me of is baby steps, to move slowly, and trust in ease fully emerging out of the cocoon.
Ahhh Emma I feel you so deeply on this. The desire to have connection and community and yet also some parts of that feels so vulnerable... too vulnerable at times. I have to say I have only truly found that 'bone deep nervous system healing connection' through sitting in Circle with others, and actually from a lot of the spaces I have actively created myself. That might sound a little controlling but it has been these spaces where I have felt safe enough to be myself fully, and in doing that my confidence has grown. I think we have to do it gently, but also I think that we have to stretch a little in order to meet that part of us... it is tender for sure but YOU ARE DOING IT!!!! Love to you, and thank you for mentioning the way I greet my readers, it was really soothing to have that reflected to me as I like to think of my pieces as little invitations for connection. Grateful for you and your words always. xxxx
You are so welcome, thank you for the inspiration. Your greeting always feels like a welcoming in. I’ve been thinking about holding circles here, to meet others and to be in that sacred spaced, especially for mothers, it seems everything is with a goal in mind and I want to hold space for people to be seen and heard. It is vulnerable, and I am doing. I am grateful I am stretching, and it feels uncomfortable!
I relate so deeply to this, Emma! I've struggled with fulfilling onnections my entire life. I'm at a point now where my connections are the strongest they've ever been, yet I still tend to feel lonely or misunderstood at times (all stemming from good ole childhood trauma). When I'm feeling that way I try to see it as a mirror. What is this lack I'm feeling trying to teach me about myself? How can I go deeper with my connections? How can I find new ones? It is a constant journey! Thank you for expressing yourself so vulnerably and inviting your community into this topic. I think that's where real connection truly starts. ❤️
I hear you on the trauma from the past, sometimes I think my perspective is distorted because of it. I love what you said about the mirror, and since you already practice that, you are going to be ready for motherhood (as much as anyone can be). Thank you for reading, I’m really happy you’re here ❤️
Seeking and craving in real-life connection and community here too. It feels like it should be easy to find but it isn't always. I love how you express your loneliness here I feel it in my bones. Wishing you well on your quest. x
Thank you, it does feel like it should be easy but it is not. Wishing you well on your journey as well.
I can relate to so much of this desire for community and connection and the challenges of feeling alone in a group, not knowing how or what to say. Finding and strengthening community is something that feels so important to me and is often so tenuous but worthwhile.
It definitely feels like effort a lot of the time, but in the right spaces, it lifts me up and I feel more connected.